Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Crunches: I'm Not Doin' 'Em Wrong

Crunches: I Want Them to Be Easy.
They Aren’t.
Crunches. Every day. In October, my daughter watched me do crunches and said, “Mom, crunches: You’re doin’ it wrong.” I now do them right. Every day (or most days). They aren’t easy—yet. Each day, as I begin, I want them to be easy—or easier. They aren’t and I’m disappointed—every day. Today, eight months on, I realized they might not ever be easy. I also realized that is no longer important. What is important is that I continue to do them.
In life, many things aren’t easy, but that is no reason to stop doing them. Nor should that lack of ease keep you from starting hard things.
Want to start something? Is it hard? Don’t let that stop you.



Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Visitation? Really?

Visitation Hesitation

     Visitation: Now that’s a misnomer. When a child spends time with a noncustodial parent, it’s called visitation. Really? I say it should be changed to “being a parent” or “parenting time.” Just when does any responsible, caring, involved, and even loving, parent simply “visit” with their child when that child is under their roof or in their care?

Friday, March 10, 2017

Pine Tree Swan Song

Pine Tree Swan Song

Orange flags mounted on wood stakes announced that the lot down the street had been surveyed. Dense with oak trees, palmetto scrub, and ancient pines that towered like nature’s skyscrapers, I knew the texture of this street would soon change when the lot was cleared.
Much of the development where I live has retained a rural sensibility. Undeveloped lots surround many houses, and depending on where you live, if you look the right way—away from your neighbors’ houses—you can almost pretend you are in the woods. Many homesites are so wooded that the owners don’t have to pretend. I’m fortunate to own a home with those pretend benefits. An undeveloped lot sits south of my house, as do at least three lots east of it. Pine trees, both mature and saplings, oak trees, scrub palmettos, and, alas, far too many Brazilian peppers make up my view.
My view wouldn’t change when the lot down the street was cleared, but the street view would—and soon. One morning not long after the stakes appeared, the sound of bulldozers and bush hogs silenced the birdsong. First, the heavy equipment took out the oaks, cabbage palms, scrub palmettos, and even the Brazilian peppers. The heavy machinery rumbled through the lot each day, moving, mowing, crashing the growth to the ground. Dump trucks lined up, were filled, and drove away containing once-living greenery.
Too hardy and far too tall for the first stage of clearing, the ancient pines still stood in place. However, I knew the day would come when they, too, would meet a clear-cut fate. These sturdy pines had weathered many a storm and many a drought. They stayed put in 2004 and 2005, when hurricane after hurricane slammed the area. Residents were storm weary, but these pines persevered.
Days later, when heavy equipment roared the morning awake, I knew the pine trees would be gone by sunset. Even so, I wasn’t prepared for the sounds of the machines’ mighty effort to topple those pines. Cracks, creaks, sighs, and groans sliced through the air as the pines were pushed and prodded into submission. The pines resisted at first, their roots continuing to hug deep within the Florida soil that had sustained them for many decades. Persisting, the machines finally accomplished their goal. I heard a funeral dirge as the trees toppled with resounding cracks and crashing thuds as they hit the ground.
I am almost certain I was the sole onlooker concerned about the trees, even from a few lots away. I sensed a kinship and felt it only right and honorable that someone witness their last needles blow in the wind, catch the pungent scent of pine sap in the air, and hear the massive trunks hit the ground. I even felt some inner pain as they and I said goodbye.

I know the lot on which my home sits was once covered with native Florida vegetation, probably relatives of the same oaks, pines, and palms that died an unsung death in the lot down the street. I know that progress and preservation fight an ongoing, no-winners battle. We want our houses, our businesses, our stores, our places of entertainment. Balancing the desires of people and the necessity of nature has never been easy. I think it’s only fitting, however, that when we remove habitat to provide ourselves with the trappings of modern life that we take notice. Our spirits must awake, become aware, and yes, even sing a pine tree swan song.



Monday, January 16, 2017

White Moth Sacrifice

White Moth Sacrifice


Wings beating so fast, they were a blur,
The white moth flew near the patio ceiling.
She did not move far, only inches.

The better to camouflage himself, the white frog in the corner
Moved higher, closer.
I thought the moth would fly away,
But, as if hypnotized, she stayed in place.
The frog leapt toward her, and paused,
Hungry, yet fascinated by the whirling ivory wings.

Immobile, I watched the drama play out.
Wings still beating, she crept closer to him.
I wanted to wave my arms, to toss something to startle her into flight
Or the frog into retreat.
Hypnotized myself, I did nothing.

Instead, I continued to watch as she moved even closer,
As if offering herself—her life—as an ivory sacrifice.

A snap of the frog’s mouth accepted her sacrifice,
The beat of those white wings ceased,
And then they disappeared.

I felt a twinge of sadness and regret.
In vain, I tried to soothe those pangs and said aloud,
“It’s nature.”

I am not soothed, and instead
I remember that white blur of wings
Against the darkening night.